I’m a woman – and I don’t want to see sanitary napkins on display!

No, seriously. I don’t! My period may be a very normal thing for me, but no way am I prepared to parade it in public like that, nor do I advocate that any woman should do so. When students at BNU Lahore put up sanitary napkins on the walls of their university, I did not understand why they should be commended for it – I still don’t. Don’t get me wrong: I am not a prude. I don’t invent cute euphemisms for anything, and I am not easily embarrassed when matters of the male or female anatomy are discussed. I come … Continue reading I’m a woman – and I don’t want to see sanitary napkins on display!

8 downsides of a Kindle (You don’t realize until you own one)

Two years ago, we shifted to a smaller apartment. Having a smaller bedroom meant that there was no longer any space for the bookshelf that covered the entire length and breadth of one of the walls in my previous bedroom. The bookshelf was sold. I did not have the heart to part with the books – I kept finding excuses not to let go. Some had too many memories attached to them. Others were irreplaceable. Did you know that nowhere in Karachi can you get hold of Kamran Abbasi’s “Zindabad: The English Chronicles”, forcing you to order from Amazon and having to wait two months … Continue reading 8 downsides of a Kindle (You don’t realize until you own one)

Why Book Clubs Seem to Suck

I had the misfortune of being a part of two book clubs in the past few months. I accepted the invitations to join based on three things – books, people to talk to about those books, and good food. I had hoped for some intelligent if not intellectual discussions on the underlying themes of The Book Thief or the Almond Tree and perhaps to share a good cry over The Fault in Our Stars. It was not to be. I cannot pinpoint exactly when disillusionment began to sink in. Perhaps it was when the first of the clubs ignored “The … Continue reading Why Book Clubs Seem to Suck

CV and interview tips for job-seekers

Having recently joined the ranks of the unemployed, I am now facing interviewers’ questions, and it genuinely makes me wish for a general regulation of the entire process. One of the items listed on my CV is a project I completed for the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum (ushmm.org), describing the personal stories and experiences of Holocaust victims and survivors. While I am fully prepared to discuss this project and the role I played in it, what I was not prepared for during my last interview was the interviewer first asking me if I was Muslim and, on receiving an … Continue reading CV and interview tips for job-seekers

How we have beggared our own country

A Dawn News report on beggary in Pakistan I watched yesterday evening was one of the rare occasions that made me feel as if this country deserves everything that’s coming to it. According to the program, the excuse given by most of the beggars being interviewed by the anchor was “lack of choice” or “lack of education”. But as the anchor probed deeper with her questions, it gradually become clear that this was a conscious decision made by most of them. Attracted by the prospect of getting up to 1200 Rupees a day by doing nothing except sitting on the … Continue reading How we have beggared our own country

How many more Shahzebs will it take?

My father, Syed Rabbani Zamir, was murdered in Karachi in 1984 over the same issue that claimed Shahzeb Khan’s life only last week. He was trying to prevent the harassment of an unknown woman at the hands of a Saudi naval cadet who had come to Pakistan for training and was shot dead. My family pushed long and hard for justice and ultimately it was served. The offender was court-martialled and ended up serving some time in jail as well. Regardless of what happened to the culprit, the end result was the same as in Shahzeb’s case – a life … Continue reading How many more Shahzebs will it take?

Rishta Aunties – A Painful Personal Experience and a Word of Caution

Note: Due to some issues with my hosting provider, my regular domain http://www.sufiazamir.com is currently suspended. The problem is under investigation and Insha’Allah hope to have it restored soon 😥 Me approaching 30 and being still very much single has forced my family into desperate measures to arrange a suitable match for me – oft-times with disastrous results. I have lost track of the number of rishta wali aunties my mother has registered me with, and most of them have not produced a single match (decent or otherwise) after taking the initial registration money (varying from 2000-3500 Rupees, plus a hefty sum … Continue reading Rishta Aunties – A Painful Personal Experience and a Word of Caution